Society can break us. So much negativity and bashing. It pains me to hear about a client's daughter being bullied at school, endless complaints on Facebook about anything and everything, bad attitudes, jealousy, and put-downs. If you want to feel bad about yourself log into any social media website. We tend to compare our lives, jobs, bodies, incomes, houses, cars, and gadgets to our neighbors. The world can be a tough, nasty place! What role do you play in all of this? Are you adding to it or leading people in another direction? Make it your mission to be the light for others. Set the example. Teach your kids to respect and love themselves and others. To do the right thing. Live life in a Godly way. Be honest. Genuine. Be happy for others. Give compliments freely. Be kind. Spread joy. Take a stand. Rise up and be bold-the world needs you!
Copyright, 2014, Jackie Mart. For further information about this blog, or Optimum Wellness LLC, contact Jackie Mart at 712.790.5883 or Jackie@OptimumWellnessMN.com. As a holistic nutrition and lifestyle coach, I will support you in taking steps to a healthier and happier you. My goal is to help you create an art of balance in your life. You will also learn how important balance between primary foods (relationships, physical activity, sleep, career and spirituality) and secondary foods (organic food and whole food) is.
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This was written by Charlie Chaplin on his 70th birthday on April 16, 1959.
"When I started loving myself, I’ve understood that I’m always, and at any given opportunity, in the right place at the right time. And I’ve understood that all that happens is right. From then on, I could be calm. Today I know it is called trust.
When I started to love myself, I understood how much it can offend somebody when I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I know it is called respect.
When I started loving myself, I could recognize that emotional pain and grief are just warnings for me to not live against my own truth. Today I know it is called authentically being.
When I started loving myself, I have stopped longing for another life and could see that everything around me was a request to grow. Today I know it is called maturity.
When I started loving myself, I’ve stopped depriving myself of my free time and I’ve stopped sketching further magnificent projects for the future. Today I only do what’s fun and joy for me, what I love and what makes my heart laugh, in my own way and in my tempo. Today I know it is called honesty.
When I started loving myself, I’ve escaped from all that wasn’t healthy for me; from dishes, people, things, situations, and from everything pulling me down and away from myself. In the beginning I called it the “healthy egoism”, but today I know it is called self love.
When I started loving myself, I’ve stopped wanting to be always right; thus I’ve been less wrong. Today I’ve recognized it is called humbleness.
When I started loving myself, I’ve refused to live further in the past and to worry about my future. Now I live only at this moment where everything takes place. Like this, I live every day and I call it consciousness.
When I started loving myself, I recognized that my thinking can make me miserable and sick. When I though requested for my heart forces, my mind got an important partner. I call this connection today heart wisdom.
We do not need to fear further discussions, conflicts and problems with ourselves and others since even stars sometimes bang on each other and create new worlds.
Today I know this is this life!"
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Shame is not the same as guilt. When we feel guilt, it's about something we did. When we feel shame, it's about who we are. Shame = "I am not good enough." When we feel guilty we need to learn that it's okay to make mistakes. When we feel shame we need to learn it's okay to be WHO WE ARE!
Shame comes from being taught that we are worthless or bad. It can stem from childhood experiences and comments from parents/adults or cruel kids. It comes from being threatened with shaming, or physical discipline, or humiliation.
It's sad how we remember a million negative things people have said or done to us and forget about all the wonderful compliments we have recieved from genuine human beings! I know I personally remember horrible things people have said to me!
Here are some tips to help with shame:
When people treat you well- Absorb it! Always take at least a few seconds to FEEL the good feelings you get when you are treated well. Let your appreciation show! Smile and learn to say "thank you." Showing your appreciation reinforces the other person and encourages them to stay around you longer. Don't talk yourself out of it; most compliments are honest.
When people treat you bad- don't dwell on it!! Maybe they just had a bad day and you happened to be the one they took it out on. Be sure to tell the other person that what they said or did hurt you and why. Sometimes people don't even realize how they are affecting others.
You are WORTHY of love and belonging!! BELIEVE you are enough!! We may not be perfect, but we ARE WORTH IT! :)
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